The Second Most Important Question

You’ve talked about this with your girlfriends from the moment you knew he was "The One". Where your wedding would be, what your dress would look like, and who would stand up with you on this momentous occasion. So when the time finally arrives for you to make those decisions, choosing your bridesmaids can be just as special as planning any other detail of your wedding. You can ask them straight-forward or find more creative ways to ask them to be a part of this special day. However, it’s important that some of them may not be able to accept the honor. Prior commitments, financial difficulties or myriad of other reasons may keep them from committing. Be prepared and understanding in that situation.

Be sure you have thought out exactly what you are going to say. Don’t pressure them into a decision at that very moment. Being in a wedding is a huge financial and time commitment, and don’t be offended if someone has to actually take a moment to think things through. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t honored to be asked.

If all your bridesmaids live in the same town as you, invite them to a brunch or girls night out where you can ask them all at one time. This will be cause for excitement and celebration. You may want to personalize all or a select few of your invitations, so this may not work for every bride.

You can ask your ladies by sending flowers or a sentimental gift such as a picture album or something that is special between the two of you.

Brides with a sense of humor can ask friends to be a bridesmaid by using the stereotype of an ugly bridesmaid dress and show them something hideous when you ask them. Don’t let the joke play out for too long though, or it may get scary!

Super creative brides can create a video, music video or song to ask people to be in their wedding party. The key is to make sure that you make it about them, because so much of the time spent in the coming months is going to be focused on you. Making your bridesmaids feel special is a great way to start off this process.

Yes, some girls may have ‘always a bridesmaid, never a bride’ envy, but at the end of the day, make sure you have people standing beside you that truly love and support you and your groom, and your future. Having a strong support system to back you up will make you feel more comfortable as you stand at the altar, and will help support you through any difficulties that life may throw at you.